Silver Therapy Group

Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword. On the outside, it may look like ambition, attention to detail, or a drive to succeed—but internally, it can feel like never being good enough. At Silver Therapy Group, we help New Yorkers untangle the complex relationship between achievement, self-worth, and identity. Therapy for perfectionism is not about giving up your goals; it’s about finding healthier, more sustainable ways to pursue them without losing yourself in the process.

If you notice that your mood depends on your productivity, that you’re hypercritical of yourself or others, or that you avoid risks out of fear of failure, you may be living with unhealthy perfectionism. Our therapists offer evidence-based approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychodynamic insight, and trauma-informed care to help you challenge unrealistic expectations, navigate burnout, and develop a more balanced view of yourself. We also incorporate multicultural and identity-conscious frameworks to understand how perfectionism is shaped by systemic pressures and personal history.

Many perfectionists developed their mindset as a coping strategy—perhaps in response to high-pressure environments, critical parenting, trauma, or being part of a marginalized group where “proving yourself” felt essential. Therapy provides a space to explore these origins with compassion and curiosity, helping you see where your patterns came from and how they may no longer be serving you. You’ll learn to build self-worth that doesn’t hinge on performance, while still honoring your ambitions and drive.